There are a few if not many myths out there
which need to be thrown away here are but a few
Myth “My baby is attached to me because I gave
birth to him or her.”
Fact: Infants have independent nervous systems that may be different from yours.
What makes you feel good may not be the same thing that makes your infant feel
good. So unless you look and listen to your infant’s emotional cues, you won’t
understand his or her individual needs.
Myth: “Secure attachment and love are the same
thing.”
Fact: Bonding and attachment happen instinctively between mothers and babies,
but, unfortunately, loving your baby doesn't automatically result in secure
attachment. Secure attachment develops from your ability to manage your stress,
respond to your baby's cues, and successfully soothe your infant.
Myth: “Always
responding to their needs makes babies spoiled.”
Fact: On the contrary, the more responsive you are to an infant’s needs, the
less “spoiled” the baby will be as they get older. Bonding creates trust, and
children with secure attachments tend to be more independent, not less.
Myth: “Babies can have a secure attachment bond
with more than one person.”
Fact: Babies form a secure attachment with only one person – the person who
spends the most time caring for them. However, they can bond or connect in a
loving way with all those people who take care of them. Dads or mums
Myth : Newborns don't really need their fathers
The intense
connection between your partner and your new baby can leave you wondering
whether your baby really needs you. You may feel especially shut out if your
partner is breastfeeding your baby. Rest assured, you are an essential part of your
newborn’s life. Being with you is comforting and soothing to him.
To bond with your baby, hold, rock, and chat to him. Wait until after a feed, though, so you'll have his full attention. Taking over after a feed also gives your partner a chance to recoup her energy after breastfeeding.
You can help to feed your baby if your partner expresses milk into a bottle, or if you decide you want to go with formula feeding. And you can help your baby indirectly by doing chores around the house. This will allow your partner more relaxed time with your baby. Remember, you make a difference to your whole family.
To bond with your baby, hold, rock, and chat to him. Wait until after a feed, though, so you'll have his full attention. Taking over after a feed also gives your partner a chance to recoup her energy after breastfeeding.
You can help to feed your baby if your partner expresses milk into a bottle, or if you decide you want to go with formula feeding. And you can help your baby indirectly by doing chores around the house. This will allow your partner more relaxed time with your baby. Remember, you make a difference to your whole family.
Myth: Men
don't know how to care for young children
This is a
great untruth that keeps dads from having a strong relationship with their babies.
It also causes unnecessary anxiety for new mums who worry that their partners
aren't capable of handling newborns.
Aside from breastfeeding, there’s no reason that a man can’t be a child's primary caregiver. Parenting is learnt on the job by everyone, mums and dads. If you spend time with your baby, you’ll become sensitive to his needs.
Aside from breastfeeding, there’s no reason that a man can’t be a child's primary caregiver. Parenting is learnt on the job by everyone, mums and dads. If you spend time with your baby, you’ll become sensitive to his needs.
