This is 2012. We no longer
have to spank children to have them understand the “error” of their ways. We
have made advances in parenting. We now know how to communicate in a way that
actually teaches, rather than punishes. Doing something because it’s always
been done that way and worked out in the past, is not a good reason for
continuing
When you use physical
punishment to show a child he/she did something wrong, you are sending the
unintended message that whomever is bigger and stronger decides what’s right
and what’s wrong
Spanking also shows children
that violence is an appropriate way to solve life’s problems. “If I don’t like
what you do, then I’m going to hit you.” Physically punishing your child can be
perceived as a form of bullying,
When children are hit by the
very people who are supposed to protect them, it causes a child to question
everything and what is the answer the child will come up with do you think?
What's so wrong with hitting children?
Better to ask "what's right about
it?" Everybody agrees it is morally wrong to settle arguments between
adult people with blows. But children are people too. Why should they of all
people lack equal protection from all forms of violence - particularly
when they are among the most vulnerable physically?
Physical punishments are not only morally wrong, they don't work either. A whack on the bottom may stop children for that moment. But it won't stop them doing the same thing later on because being hit does not teach them anything useful. It doesn't teach them how you want them to behave, and it doesn't teach them to try to please you. Research evidence shows that children who have been slapped or hit are usually so overwhelmed with anger and hurt feelings that they cannot remember what they were punished for.
Physical punishments are not only morally wrong, they don't work either. A whack on the bottom may stop children for that moment. But it won't stop them doing the same thing later on because being hit does not teach them anything useful. It doesn't teach them how you want them to behave, and it doesn't teach them to try to please you. Research evidence shows that children who have been slapped or hit are usually so overwhelmed with anger and hurt feelings that they cannot remember what they were punished for.
Personal note
I have
never had to hit a child ever there are many ways of dealing with a child without
hitting or shouting. Yes I fully understand what it’s like having been a stay
at home dad so try not to do it please
