Children have a fundamental human right to an opportunity and relationship with both their mother and father

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To all mother who are keeping the child from their dads for whatever reason it not Love and for those who are know this is going on and do nothing you are supporting child abuse. I wonder if you knew that a child was being used sexually would you not do all you could to stop it so . so why not Parental alienation ? Here are a few things you need to know that is will be happening to the child,

Behavioral problems (fatherless children have more difficulties with social adjustment, and are more likely to report problems with friendships, and manifest behavior problems; many develop a swaggering, intimidating persona in an attempt to disguise their underlying fears, resentments, anxieties and unhappiness)

Truancy and poor academic performance (71 per cent of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father absent homes are more likely to play truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood)

Promiscuity and teen pregnancy (fatherless children are more likely to experience problems with sexual health, including a greater likelihood of having intercourse before the age of 16, foregoing contraception during first intercourse, becoming teenage parents, and contracting sexually transmitted infection; girls manifest an object hunger for males, and in experiencing the emotional loss of their fathers egocentrically as a rejection of them, become susceptible to exploitation by adult men)

Drug and alcohol abuse (fatherless children are more likely to smoke, drink alcohol, and abuse drugs in childhood and adulthood)

Homelessness (90 per cent of runaway children have an absent father)

Exploitation and abuse (fatherless children are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, being five times more likely to have experienced physical abuse and emotional maltreatment, with a one hundred times higher risk of fatal abuse; a recent study reported that preschoolers not living with both of their biological parents are 40 times more likely to be sexually abused)

Physical health problems (fatherless children report significantly more psychosomatic health symptoms and illness such as acute and chronic pain, asthma, headaches, and stomach aches)

Mental health disorders (father absent children are consistently overrepresented on a wide range of mental health problems, particularly anxiety, depression and suicide)

So knowing this why are we allowing it to go on There are some reason why we allow this abuse (Parental alienation) to continue

Myth “My baby is attached to me because I gave birth to him or her.”

Fact: Infants have independent nervous systems that may be different from yours. What makes you feel good may not be the same thing that makes your infant feel good. So unless you look and listen to your infant’s emotional cues, you won’t understand his or her individual needs.

Myth: “Secure attachment and love are the same thing.”

Fact: Bonding and attachment happen instinctively between mothers and babies, but, unfortunately, loving your baby doesn't automatically result in secure attachment. Secure attachment develops from your ability to manage your stress, respond to your baby's cues, and successfully soothe your infant.

Myth: “Babies can have a secure attachment bond with more than one person.”

Fact: Babies form a secure attachment with only one person – the person who spends the most time caring for them. However, they can bond or connect in a loving way with all those people who take care of them. Dads or mums  

Myth : Newborns don't really need their fathers

The intense connection between your partner and your new baby can leave you wondering whether your baby really needs you. You may feel especially shut out if your partner is breastfeeding your baby. Rest assured, you are an essential part of your newborn’s life. Being with you is comforting and soothing to him.

To bond with your baby, hold, rock, and chat to him. Wait until after a feed, though, so you'll have his full attention. Taking over after a feed also gives your partner a chance to recoup her energy after breastfeeding.

You can help to feed your baby if your partner expresses milk into a bottle, or if you decide you want to go with formula feeding. And you can help your baby indirectly by doing chores around the house. This will allow your partner more relaxed time with your baby. Remember, you make a difference to your whole family.

Myth: Men don't know how to care for young children

This is a great untruth that keeps dads from having a strong relationship with their babies. It also causes unnecessary anxiety for new mums who worry that their partners aren't capable of handling newborns.

Aside from breastfeeding, there’s no reason that a man can’t be a child's primary caregiver. Parenting is learnt on the job by everyone, mums and dads. If you spend time with your baby, you’ll become sensitive to his needs.

Myth:  Men who focus on their children can't pursue a career too

This is no more true for men than it is for women. Parents juggle work and parenthood every day, and more men are opting to be the stay-at-home parent. Being a good dad is a significant accomplishment in life.

There is an answer to all this it called Shared parenting

children need two parents and that children have a fundamental human right to an opportunity and relationship with both their mother and father, for greater equality in parental responsibility following separation and divorce. They call for laws creating a rebuttable presumption of 50/50 shared custody after divorce or separation, so that children would spend equal time with each parent unless there were reasons studies showing that children in shared custody settings are better adjusted and have fewer social problems such as low academic achievement, crime, pregnancy, substance abuse, depression and suicide, and state that shared parenting is in fact in the best interests of the child.

I hope this give you something to think about